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With all due respect to Dr. Duvall, your recent dating life may not quite qualify as “one of life’s most delightful experiences”. Perhaps the following scenarios sound familiar:

• awkward evening with the socially dysfunctional son or daughter of someone your mother knows
• regrettable one-night stand with some (insert gender-specific expletive) you met at a bar
• adventures in boredom with your best friend’s co-worker’s second cousin (twice removed)
• ill-considered backsliding with your ex
• romantic night at home with your (cat/Tivo/cleaning supplies/Playstation/porn/all of the above)

Perhaps you’re even thinking of finally giving in and trying out the “internet dating” thing. Maybe you've been holding back because you think it's just too...

• unromantic
• humiliating
• scary
• expensive
• futile
• not sure, just makes you vaguely uncomfortable

Getover yourself. It’s 2005. Internet dating has been around for a decade. 20million people visit e-dating sites every month. It’s the source for 12% of newmarriages as well as countless sexual encounters (they don’t track that stuff).E-dating spans every age, gender, religion, race, and sexual orientationdemographic in the computerized world. It is entirely different from the oldpersonal ads where lonely people publish their sexual fantasies at ten cents aword. It’s the biggest social phenomenon since the dance club, though it has yetto spawn any new music genres.

Why do it?

Thinkof e-dating services as date generators, nothing more, nothing less. Thescreening process is better than you get at bars, especially when you’ve beendrinking, but probably not as good as you get when friends set you up. Theopportunities and frustrations associated with e-dating are the same as thosethat come with dating people whom you’ve met any other way. Whenever you go on adate, no matter how you found the date, you’re throwing the dice. If you getreally, really lucky, you’ll meet your soul-mate, fall in love, and live happilyever after. If you get a little lucky, you’ll meet someone cool to datefor a while or at least someone attractive to screw for a while. If you getunlucky, your date will be a boring, unattractive loser or worse, a charming,good-looking loser who makes your life miserable. You can take some steps tomaximize your chances, but in the end, it’s always a gamble, and e-dating can’tchange that. What e-dating can do, if you do it right, is fill your socialcalendar with dates. Some will be good, many will be bad, but each and everydate carries the possibility of changing your life. That’s why we do it.

Who the hell am I, and why I am telling you this?

Callme MJ. I’m a 33-year-old single Jewish guy in New York City. I’ve been e-dating on and off for about three years. Inthat time, I’ve had one happy year-long relationship, a few month longrelationshiplets, a little casual action, a lot of decent dates, and a fewshitty ones. I’ve even made some friends along the way.

Idecided to put up this site because I figured, with a touch of egotism, that otherpeople could benefit from my experience. E-dating isn’trocket science, but it can be a confusing process, and it takes some work to doit right. A simple, honest, practical guide might go a long way toward helping peoplehave pleasant and successful e-dating experiences.

Ifyou’ve been to any internet dating sites, you may know that many of them offertheir own tips on creating profiles and contacting people. For example, JDateadvises, Remember, your profile is the firstimpression you make, so put your best foot forward . Thank you JDate. Mysite offers something different: practical, real-world strategy for making yourprofile more appealing so that you get more responses and have better dates.I’ll also tell you about e-dating conventions, some dos and don’ts, featuresoffered by different services, and the process of moving from the first contactto the first date.

What makes meso smart?

I’mnot that smart. But I’ve done a fair amount of e-dating, thought about theprocess, and figured out how to improve my response rate and minimize baddates. I’ve also helped a number of friends put together or improve theirprofiles. Most importantly, unlike the e-dating sites themselves, I’ll tellyou how to work the system, and I don’t hesitate to tell it how it is.

Orrather, I don’t hesitate to tell you how I see it. E-dating can be verydifferent depending on your gender, age, location, and preferences. I’moffering one perspective, and you may find it doesn’t fit your experience verywell. For instance, I know very little about the gay e-dating scene, sexualencounter sites, or Christian dating services. But to broaden the perspectivesomewhat, I’ve enlisted my trusty roommate, henceforth known as TR , to weigh in occasionally with thefemale perspective. I’ll also call on the experiences of other friends, mostlyin New York and San Francisco, who have used various e-datingservices.

Ultimately,I hope that this site will offer a lot more than the experiences of my littlesocial circle. Every page has a comments section. I encourage you to write into share your stories, opinions, and examples of profiles that really work.I’ll try to incorporate your feedback into the site and eventually postsurveys, stories, and opposing points of view.

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